Girl's Get-a-Way

Kalie was in town and since a few of mine and Tonya's girls thought it would be fun to have a girls weekend we decided this was a good time to do it.  It ended up not being the best time to do it but we did it anyway with those that could make it.  We met at a Hotel Friday night in Park City and talked all night.  We talked a lot about "Dressing Your Truth" and discovering Your Individual Type of Beauty and Personality  .  I had heard about this while on the Alaskan Cruise from Kathy.  It is really interesting and more than anything helps us understand why others are like they are.  I think so often we try to form or mold others to be like us or how we think they should be.  This book and information talks about differences and how we are the way we are.  We need to accept others for their differences and when we understand them it is so much easier.

It was fun discussing which type fit us.  There were five of us in the room and all of us had strengths in different areas. (however in this book there are only 4 types....try to figure that out) ☺ We laughed a lot while Kimleighel expressed her type to us.  Kimleighel is a character and before we visited Kalie thought she was a different personality type but quickly learned otherwise.  I loved our Friday night together.

Saturday we went to the outlets.  I didn't enjoy the outlets as much has I have in the past.  Maybe it's because we needed to get things and didn't just enjoy looking.  The only things I even thought I'd get is a few things for Kimleighel and Jared to start school.  Kimleighel found some shirts that made her happy and I found a few shirts and a pair of pants for Jared.  I also bought Larry a pair of pants since it seems I don't keep up with them in the wash lately.  I might only be doing wash every other to 3rd day and he runs out.  Trichelle got her kids clothes and that's about the fun of it.

We met Amity for lunch and after lunch Kalie had to leave to head back to Colorado.  We didn't spend much time with Amity since we got the things we needed already and Trichelle wasn't feeling good.  We went to a fun store with her and I got me some Honeycomb Candy.  It was a fun store and would have been nice to look a little longer.  I couldn't even try the Honeycomb until I got home because I was so full from lunch.

I am glad I got to spend time with my girls and Tonya and a few of her girls.  We had a good time and it was worth taking the time to make it happen.  I love making memories with my kids.  Kimleighel has been expressing her love for me lots since. ☺

Happy Birthday to Me........lita

Even though I love celebrating my birthday every once in awhile I take a break and actually help someone else to celebrate their birthday.  Today is Melita's birthday and so I took her to breakfast.  I think she might have been surprised that I asked her if I could.  I was talking to Melita about helping me with nail stuff and she told me she was taking the day off for her birthday.  I didn't want her helping with my nails on her birthday so I invited her to breakfast instead.  We had a nice visit and a yummy breakfast from Kneaders.  You just can't beat their french toast.  I even splurged and bought some orange rolls to take tonight to a girls night out.

I like this cute neighbor of mine.  She's a fun girl and has the cutest little boys.  When I asked her how old she was I thought WOW I'm 8 years older....then I realized I had thought I was younger than I am and I am really 18 years older.  Melita is just 3 years older than Trichelle.  Crazy!  I don't care how old or young my friends are....age is just a number. (one that I keep forgetting but not on purpose)

Mal and Kathy

I love our Birthday Months because it means at least two get together's with these cute friends.  This month we've seen each other a few more times because of Lawson's wedding and the bridal shower for his wife.  It's always great spending time with Mallory and Kathy.  I admire and love each of them so much.  They are good at making me feel loved too!  It's so much fun having friends forever.  We share so many memories and fun times.  It's just fun growing up with friends and having them still.

I can't imagine life without my friends.  We discussed that today a little.  We know people and family members that are kind of loners with very simple and slow lives.  I'm sure those people love their lives and the simplicity of it but I wouldn't enjoy it at all.  I quite enjoy the hustle and bustle and coming and goings....at least most of the time....Mallory and Kathy agree....that's why we are such good friends.

I wonder what's next for us?  I'm sure we will continue to meet for lunches and attend baby showers and weddings together and never feel as old as we might be.  By the way there comes a time in life that it really is hard to remember your real age....I mess up a lot and it's not because I care...it's because I don't feel my age and the number changes so quickly. ☺

Twigs at Twelve on the Twelfth by Twain

Today, the Twelfth at Twelve  I went with the Fun Bunch on the "Twain"  so we could have lunch at Twigs.  We had such a fun time.  I had to laugh when Patti didn't show up and when I called her she had thought it was happening tomorrow.  I wonder how she missed "Twigs at Twelve on the Twelfth"?  She met us at Twigs since she missed the Twain.  Speaking of Twain...I thought it would rain and so I grabbed a few umbrella's which of course we didn't end up needing.  I hope it did rain somewhere though and that someone found the umbrella left behind when we boarded the train and that they will pay a good deed forward when they get a chance...or by mistake like we did. ☺  

We were hurrying to Twigs to meet Patti but had to stop for pictures at a place that had lovely purple chairs.  Have you ever tried a Roxberry?  I hadn't even heard of it before.  But the chairs are beautiful aren't they?  The cardboard man is the only male in our pictures today, well except for the guy on the wall of the train behind me and Jodi who I noticed was positioned very well for our picture.

                                 

Twigs is a nice place and we had a great lunch.  Jodi asked if they did anything for birthdays and they said yes they would give us a free dessert.  Well we celebrated mine and Jodi's birthdays and got two huge, yummy desserts.  How cool was that?  Very cool...and very yummy!

                               

I'm not sure why I like taking pictures of the food we eat but I do it a lot.  I think I just like food and I enjoy how nicely it is presented.  So there's the food we had today.

One of the store's I really wanted to go to was Charming Charlies.  I had heard so much about it and so we went there first.  Some of the other gals wanted to go there too.  It is a fun store with lots of jewelry and accessories. It was a great store for photo opportunities. I think we look glamorous and stunning.  I found and bought a purse for when I am Glinda. It's just a little purse with bling that will fit my camera, money and treats for the kids. ☺

We were running out of time and had to hurry through a few more stores before we went back to the train.  We had a little fun in a candy shop.  I love candy shops with all their bright colors.  Someday I really want my kitchen to look like a candy shop. (however if it did I might not like visiting the candy shops as much)

We only had a minute or two more and so a few of the gals ran into Gordman's and Jodi and I went to a Home Decor store.  We bought Halloween items.  Jodi got some cute purple bottles...not sure if they were potions or poison...but do know they were cute.  We each got a spiderweb bowl with a purple spider hanging from it.  Dang Cute!

It was hot and even though the time said we had time to get to the train-we saw a train and thought we needed to run. (wrong train) I think I got a little heat stroke.....my face was flushed and red and I got a headache.  Thanks goodness Linda had water and I had an umbrella for shade. I think those things helped but I still didn't feel good the rest of the night.  (I'm a bit of a pansy..I know)

It was a lot of fun and looking at the pictures makes me laugh and enjoy the fun we had.  If you want to make life more fun...take a camera with you and capture your fun with a picture.

Pedi's with Kathy

We have a "gift", a buddy, a friend and sometimes I recognize a prompting from Him.  Today was one of those times.  Kathy has been on my mind and I knew I needed to call her.  Instead of calling I just stopped by since I have to pass her house to go anywhere.  I asked her if she wanted to go get a pedicure with me in a few hours. (she wasn't ready to leave yet...wink)  She said she would love to and so I ran a few errands and went back for her.  I took Kathy to my favorite place in Syracuse and we enjoyed being pampered.  I told Kathy about my crummy morning yesterday and she could relate.  We discussed solutions and it was nice sharing with her because I knew she would understand.

We talked the whole time we were being pampered. Surprise?....not really!  I love the massage chair and today it actually felt great the entire time.  Usually I have a tight spot that needs worked on a little before it feels good.  I love having my feet messed with.....sigh......it's the best!

At some point Kathy told me that she would have thought James had called me if he would have had my  number.  She was really needing something or someone and James knew it.  I smiled because James hadn't called me but the Holy Ghost let me know.  Kathy just took Jenny back to college and is having a hard time with that.  I don't understand what she is going through since I haven't experienced the empty nest yet...it will still be a few years and by then I might be jumping for joy that it's finally empty.  Who knows?  Anyway God knew she needed a friend and He sent me.  I love that!

We went to lunch after just so we didn't have to hurry home.  I always love hanging out with Kathy. She is a talented, smart and a very fun friend.  I am glad that we live close to each other and that we can play together every now and then.  I know this winter I will really need to pay attention to the prompting sent my way.  Winter time is hard for many people and Kathy is one of them.  We talked about getting up and ready and even leaving the house early and how that makes us feel better.  I know if I get up and go for just a minute the rest of my day is better.  I accomplish more for sure and I just feel better.  That's my trick...maybe it will help her too.

It was fun the few hours we were together.  I'm glad that Kathy needed someone today and that I was the one who showed up.  I was going to go regardless and it really is more fun with friends.

One of My Favorites

I always enjoyed this guys humor and spunk.  Today he ended his life.  I feel sad that he suffered and felt like that was the answer but I know that he is in a wonderful place where sickness doesn't exist.  Death isn't a bad thing.  I am reading Heaven is for Real and the little boy's dad was trying to scare him from running in the road by showing him a bunny that got hit.  It didn't share Colton at all because he knows how wonderful Heaven is.....I feel like Colton.

my spirit broke today

I posted this quote today after reading many good quotes from our leaders.  I know there is so much more good in each of us than there is bad and I really want to be remembered for my good.  The part about "especially of those you say you love" did catch my eye in fact I wasn't sure that part needed to be there.  It needed to be there and it needed to be there for me.

Hours after I posted this my soul was crushed by a smart attitude and so much disrespect.  It's a rule at our house to do your chores before the next day....always has been.  However the chores don't get done every day like they should.  When I say things to my kids they act put out....we really don't ask much.  Last night I specifically asked my daughter to make sure the kitchen was cleaned up before morning.  I really do not like a mess in the morning.  This morning while I was getting ready for church I went in to get me a glass of water and the kitchen was a mess.  I called out to my daughter and before I said anything more than her name she started in on me with a nasty attitude.  An attitude that makes my older kids cringe and look at me with a big WHY???  I went to her to talk to her and she let me have it about how she was going to clean it when she wanted...she rolled her eyes and even shut the door on me.  The last look I saw on her face was one of triumph....she know's she hurts me.  I usually mask my feelings with anger but today I didn't....I broke.  I went to the bathroom and cried and prayed.  I really wanted to feel God's arms around me but I didn't.  I felt alone and kept remembering this quote I had posted earlier.

I thought about my daughters qualities...about the things I heard when she received her Patriarchal Blessing.  I thought about all the time I have spent trying to build her and better her.  All the times I have defended her...all the times I put her above the other children.  There is no one in this life that has loved her more or done more for her than me.  I love this child.  My heart hurts for her because of her challenges but I also rejoice with the gifts she has been given.  I try to help her recognize those gifts and share with her the things I have learned.  I don't think she realizes how much I really do have her back.  This child is smart, observant, independent, talented (especially music and dance), sensitive to the spirit, loving, strong willed, determined, a wonderful friend, forgiving, caring, and loves God.  There really is so much good....that might be the reason it is so shocking when a negative shouts loudest.

I have heard it said that your biggest challenges are either from the one you married or the one's you gave birth to.  It's about true....and I know it works both ways....I know I must be a challenge too...I have plenty of faults.  I know the mothers of my grands are experiencing challenges with their little girls already and want to nip it in the bud right now and I understand why.  I'm not sure how we got to this point.  We have let a lot slide by for different reasons. We will talk again about some consequences if this happens more.  I think I will let her decide what should be done when she is rude and disrespectful to her parents. (it's not just me)  I know there must be lessons to learn.  I love this child unconditionally but today I truly did not like her actions towards me at all. (I think today I was caught so off guard....it's morning...why?)  Parenting is hard at times especially when you are parenting a child with a really strong spirit.

I know I bug the crud out of my daughter as well.  I'm sure she wishes I did a lot of things differently.  I have to remember we are all doing our best...and sometimes our best is not very good.